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"Ifhevisitscrossdressingsocialevenings,shouldIgo"Sadly,lotsofcrossdressersstay"inthecloset",andthismakesforalonelylifeforbothofyou.
ManydomanagetomeetoneortwocloseTVfriends.
Butitismuchbetterifhecangetoutandabout.
Itisnotillegaltoweartheclothesoftheoppositesexanywhereinpublic,noreventogointhe"wrong"loo.
It'sbestthatheusestheladies'whendressed,andwhenyouarewithhimyoucanhelphimgowhenthecoastisreasonablyclear.
Ifeitherofyoufeelembarrassed,manyofthebestmeetingsareinprivatehomesorcommunityfacilities.
Thereisespeciallynothingtofearabouthimgoingalongtoasocialmeetingoftrannies.
Greatcareistakentomakethesesafeandwelcomingplaces.
Thereisnopressureforhimtocrossdress,ortogivehisrealname(mostassumeafemalename).
Remembereveryonetherewasafirst-timeronce,andtheywillhelphisconfidence.
Forthosethathavebeenbefore,itisjustlikeanyotherladies'nightataprivatehouseorpub/club.
Manywivesandgirlfriendsdoalsogo,ifonlyoutofcuriosity.
Theyoftenmeetotherwomentheretotalkto,andgainmuchusefulinformationandsupport.
Youmayseeafewappallinglydressedmen,someofwhomhavecomplexproblemsfarworsethanyourpartner's.
Mostthoughwillbehappy,attractive,passableasfemales,andreallylovelypeopletoknow.
Thereareoftenchangingfacilitiesthereifheisworriedabouttravelling"dressed".
Aone-to-onemeetingbeforehand,orareassuring'phonelineforeitherofyou,willalsobeavailable.
"DareIgooutwithhiminpublic"Itwilldependhowconfidentbothofyouare,howconvincinghelooks,andwhereyougo.
Takeyourtimetoplanthisthefirsttime,sobothofyouarenotstressedout.
Itgetsaloteasierwithpractice.
Normallyit'snoproblem.
Probablythemostimportantthingistominimisehimspeakingaroundotherpeopleinpublic.
Thatisoftenthegiveaway.
Becauseyouaretogether,youcandothetalking.
Ifhewearsappropriateclothesforthetimeofdayandplace,thenformostpurposesthatwillbeOK.
Isuggestacountrywalktostartwith.
Ifyougotoarestaurant,bookinadvanceandask(thefirsttime)ifit'sallrightthatyourpartnerwillbecrossdressed.
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You'llprobablygetabettertable!
Iftheydoobject,takeyourcustomelsewhere.
Atriptothecinemaortheatreisgood,becausemostofthetimepeoplewillbewatchingthefilmorplay,andeveninabusyfoyereveryoneisfartooworriedaboutbeinglate/wheretheirpartnerhasgone/whathappenedtothetickets/strugglingtogetadrink,etcetera,tolookathimformorethanafewseconds.
Menarenotveryobservantanyway.
Somewomenandtheoccasionalmanmay"read"him,butnearlyeveryonewouldembarrassthemselvestosayanything,especiallyduetotheriskofbeingwrong!
[Afterall,wedon'ttellanovermade-uporuglywomanstrangerwhatwethinkofhertoherface,dowe!
]Similarly,anytinyminoritywhomightwronglyfeelthreatenedbyhisappearance(iftheyrealiseyouarewithhimatall!
)willbereassuredbyyourpresencethatheisharmless,sotheyfeelsafe.
"IfmostTVsaren'tgay,whydosomemeetingaypubs"Thegaycommunityoftendoadvertisethattheyare"trannyfriendly";becausetheymayfaceprejudicethemselves,andsotendtobemoresympathetic.
GaysarealsotentimesmorenumerousthanTVs,sohavemoremeetingplaces.
Theywon'tfancystraightTVsbecausetheyarenot"butch"enoughforthem.
(Estimatesvary,butroughly1in10ofthemalepopulationormorearegay;1in100isaTV-thoughthat'sstillaquarterofamillionintheUKalone-andsoonly1in1000isagayTV).
Alsoamanwouldoftenrathertraveloutofhislocalareabecausehemaybeafraidofbeingrecognisedinhisowncommunity.
(Whereaswomencanoftentellthesexofsomeoneunconvincinginadress,itwouldbemostunlikelyforanyonewhomeitherofyouknowtorecogniseyourpartner,ashewilllooksodifferent!
)"Wheredotheymeet,anyway"Itisdifficulttokeepuptodatewiththis,butpleaseseethelinksonmymainpage.
Ultimately,ifhelooksgoodofcourse,youcangoouttogetherinpublic,andthenhemaynotneedtospendsomuchtimeinthecompanyofpretendladies.
I'mworriedthathelookstootrashy.
"Ifhehasthewrongimagethenchangeit!
Restrainhistemptationtotrytolooklikeafilmstaraged18(evenifheis18)!
Showhimhowtositwithlegsdemurelyclosed,howtowalkandmovemoredaintilywithoutlooking'camp',andfemininehairremoval.
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(Itprobablyhastobeawig,ashighlightsorlonghairareprobablyout.
Thisisanimportantopportunityforyoutoregaincontrol,andtoensureanaturallook).
SuggesthegoestoaTVdressingservicetohelphimgetitright,ThereisalsoplentyofdressingadviceforhimonLivinDoll,Joy'swebsite.
Tellhimtopracticeprivatelyspeakingsoftlyandgently,maybeasemitonehigher,ratherthaninasillysqueakyvoice.
Menusevolumeandvocalattackforemphasis,whileladiesusepitchshifts.
(Beawareofhowhecoughsandlaughstoo,thisisquitedifficultwithoutaspeechtherapist'shelp.
)Changinghisvoicesubtlyisveryusefulforhimtopasseasilyinpublic;butofcourseit'snotessential.
Heneedn'tputonavoiceforyou,friendsorothertrannies.
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